5 Things That Happen When Your Favorite Boyband Member Gets Engaged

Forgive us, this post is not strictly limited to the Backstreet Boys, but trust us, most of you will relate. Remember a few years ago when you were young and convinced that you would go to a concert, a Backstreet Boy would spot you in the 12th row (you know because you counted 100 times because a number sounds closer than a letter) and immediately fall in love with you. Cue the fireworks!

As we all know NOW, that’s not how it happens – despite what our moms tried to tell us. In light of the crushing blow that Joe Jonas has delivered to fangirls around the world today by becoming engaged and the 2nd Jonas Brother off the market (remember when our numbers kept dwindling?!), we decided that a post walking us back through the painful experience was necessary to let all fans know that we are all in this together / have been there before. It gets better eventually.

Kind of.

Maybe.

With therapy.

1. First, your world will spin in a weird way.

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“[Insert coveted boyband member’s name here] has announced that he is engaged to longtime girlfriend, [insert name of girl you say you care nothing about but know everything about and follow on every social platform here].”

Woah. Even if you knew it was coming, the words are still a shock. Are you numb? Are you happy? Are you suddenly feeling drunk without drinking? Are you palms sweating? WHY DID HE NOT WARN YOU?

2. You’ll act like you’re fine because you’re a functioning adult.

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It’s fiiiiiiiiiiiinnee. I’m fiinnneeee. So happy for them! (You say as you dig your nails into your steering wheel on the way to the liquor store)

If honestly does not even matter if you’re married or single, you’ll have the same knee jerk reaction. It’s fine for you to be off the market, but aren’t you supposed to be able to vote in a TRL sort of way whether or not your favorite member can get married or not? Weren’t you supposed to help pick out the ring? WASN’T IT SUPPOSED TO BE YOUR RING?

3. Go online. You need a support group.

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Everyone knows that if you’re feeling a sort of way, your fan friends are too. Don’t have fan friends? This is the perfect time to make them! There’s some great bonding to be done in the emotional wrecks that losing our faves to another woman make us become. Take it to the DMs though – you may regret what your feelings of loss make you say in the heat of the moment.

4. Feelings will be hard. So hard.

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The fiance is usually a really great woman and you’re all for girl power. Up until engagement day, you probably genuinely liked every one of her posts on social media, thought she was a great catch, and ‘awww’-ed over pics of the happy couple.

But engagement – woah – whole new level outside of the controlled environment that you’re used to. I mean, this is a big life change – for you AND for him AND for her. Up until now, there might still be hypothetical room for you to move in for a second or two, but NOW….nowwwww….this is hard.

While you want to be happy for them (and you WILL wish them ‘all the best’ yada yada), you’re going to be petty for a day …or week…or month…or year or two.

5. You’ll get over it and the sun will rise again! 

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Once you get over the fact that she isn’t you and realize that most of the boyband fiances and wives are actually cooler than the boyband member at times, you’ll forget the feelings you once harbored.

Ok, you won’t FORGET…but you’ll find it in your heart to forgive. You’ll live with the fact that if it wasn’t going to be you, she was the 2nd best choice. And when you realize he’s happy, —LONG SIGH— you’ll be happy too.

You will also most likely spend the wedding day drunk, offline, and in bed. That’s cool too. It happens to the best of us. 😉

Things are going to be okay. Tours will continue. Albums (and really cute babies) will be made and we’ll ALL be one big happy family. Actually, their happiness has made things better all around. At least that’s how it’s gone of the Backstreet side of things.

Best wishes, fellow fangirls. We’re with you. We’ve been there and we’ve made it through (most of us without restraining orders).

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DISCLAIMER: This is all in good humor. We are adults. We know not EVERYONE feels / felt this way. We are obviously very happy for all of the Backstreet Boys and all married boyband members. No need to tweet, comment, etc. about how you were always happy for the couples — we get it. 🙂

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7 Tips Backstreet Boys Fans Have For The Next Generation of Fangirls (And Boys)

For most girls (and some boys), having a band win you over is a rite of passage in life. The posters, the magazines, the TV appearances, the concerts – it’s a part of our lives that we never forget and, if we’re lucky, get to relive over and over into our later years (at least the concert part).

Most of you reading this have been 20+ year fans of the Backstreet Boys and hopefully some of you are fresh fans, looking for a little guidance. Let me state now, we are in no way claiming to know everything that works or lording over a younger generation. In all actuality, with the rise of social media, we are impressed by how quickly and hardcore you guys can be about promoting your bands.

However, having been fans for 20-ish years, we have been where you are and there are things that we have learned that we wish we would have known a while ago. Actually, there are some of us that haven’t learned either — this post is a reminder for these fans as well as the next generation.

1. Stay Loyal.

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Without you showing up to shows, buying merch, watching appearances, waiting in lines for hours to see them, and more, your favorite band is nothing. The majority of us have spent countless hours traveling, watching and (endlessly) waiting for the Backstreet Boys in our years as fans. Those times we’ve spent have made for some of the best memories though.

There will be times that they are the highest of highs, with radio airplay, large events and their faces on every magazine, but there are also all of the lows. There are times when your boys aren’t going to have anyone backing them but the most loyal of fans and you’ll definitely want to be there. If you’re there for the best, be there to make sure that they remember that they’re still the best. Be a ride or die.

2. Don’t Talk Badly About Your Boys.

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Between the band and your fan-friends, everyone becomes a family. Everyone knows you talk about your siblings, but you don’t let anyone else talk about them… and that’s exactly how it should be with your favorite band. Inevitably, you will probably have a favorite (and if you say you don’t, you’re lying). You will also probably have one you care for the least. If you feel like you must say something about them, do so in private conversations. A united front is important and 9 times out of 10, words will be used against you if you’re not careful.

It’s really just in bad taste. Don’t do it.

You also never know who is lurking.

3. Come Together.

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In the end, it doesn’t matter what Megan said about you at a concert 3 years ago or what Emily tweeted about you or your favorite. When it comes time to support your band, you HAVE to stick together for the greater good. There’s strength in numbers and there’s something to be said for coming together. That’s how things get done!

4. Grow A Thick Skin Now.

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Not everyone is going to be a fan of your boys. Get used to it now. The longer they stay a band, the harsher people (including the industry) will become. The music industry is tough and everyone in it knows that. Don’t waste your time taking people down because you THINK they offended your favorite band members. In fact, if you have to say anything, be informative in a smart way. Don’t come at people in a personal way – stick to the facts.

And always, always, always promote your band more than you look to take down others who don’t. Be productive with your love.

5. …But Realize That Your Boys Aren’t Flawless.

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This one is learned with years of experience. It’s easy to think that your faves are perfect and you will do anything to make others think the same.

….but slow your roll.

No one is perfect and you will realize that, while you love them despite their flaws, others may not and that’s okay. Everyone has their preferences. At least that means you have to share with less people. The quicker you learn that they’re not flawless though, the more crazed you look and the more people can take you seriously.

ALSO – Do not come for former girlfriends, family members, etc. that have less than savory things to say about them or aren’t saying anything at all. That’s not your fight and it’s not your business. It’s more trouble than it’s worth. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

6. Respect Those That Have Come Before Them (And Those That Try To Help Them).

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DO NOT COME FOR OTHER ARTISTS WHO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR BAND. Unless it’s completely despicable and inaccurate, most times what other artists say about other artists has been lost in translation, is actually true, or is not intentionally “coming for them”. Fans berating other artists on social media is probably the #1 way to embarrass your idols, actually. Please don’t. More than anyone, the older artists know what it takes to stay in the industry and are only offering their help.

7. Have The Time Of Your Life!

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Most of us would agree that the time that you relinquish yourself to a life of fangirling (or fanboying) begins some of the best (and most memorable) times of your life. Buy the concert ticket, bug your parents to let you go with your friends, wait in line to buy an album (if people do that anymore – we’re old), share photos, share memories, and don’t take everything so seriously. A relationship with a band will change you forever – make it for the best!

And please remember — it’s not just about selfies, follows and hashtags. Soak it all in.

Good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor!