For most girls (and some boys), having a band win you over is a rite of passage in life. The posters, the magazines, the TV appearances, the concerts – it’s a part of our lives that we never forget and, if we’re lucky, get to relive over and over into our later years (at least the concert part).
Most of you reading this have been 20+ year fans of the Backstreet Boys and hopefully some of you are fresh fans, looking for a little guidance. Let me state now, we are in no way claiming to know everything that works or lording over a younger generation. In all actuality, with the rise of social media, we are impressed by how quickly and hardcore you guys can be about promoting your bands.
However, having been fans for 20-ish years, we have been where you are and there are things that we have learned that we wish we would have known a while ago. Actually, there are some of us that haven’t learned either — this post is a reminder for these fans as well as the next generation.
1. Stay Loyal.
Without you showing up to shows, buying merch, watching appearances, waiting in lines for hours to see them, and more, your favorite band is nothing. The majority of us have spent countless hours traveling, watching and (endlessly) waiting for the Backstreet Boys in our years as fans. Those times we’ve spent have made for some of the best memories though.
There will be times that they are the highest of highs, with radio airplay, large events and their faces on every magazine, but there are also all of the lows. There are times when your boys aren’t going to have anyone backing them but the most loyal of fans and you’ll definitely want to be there. If you’re there for the best, be there to make sure that they remember that they’re still the best. Be a ride or die.
2. Don’t Talk Badly About Your Boys.
Between the band and your fan-friends, everyone becomes a family. Everyone knows you talk about your siblings, but you don’t let anyone else talk about them… and that’s exactly how it should be with your favorite band. Inevitably, you will probably have a favorite (and if you say you don’t, you’re lying). You will also probably have one you care for the least. If you feel like you must say something about them, do so in private conversations. A united front is important and 9 times out of 10, words will be used against you if you’re not careful.
It’s really just in bad taste. Don’t do it.
You also never know who is lurking.
3. Come Together.
In the end, it doesn’t matter what Megan said about you at a concert 3 years ago or what Emily tweeted about you or your favorite. When it comes time to support your band, you HAVE to stick together for the greater good. There’s strength in numbers and there’s something to be said for coming together. That’s how things get done!
4. Grow A Thick Skin Now.
Not everyone is going to be a fan of your boys. Get used to it now. The longer they stay a band, the harsher people (including the industry) will become. The music industry is tough and everyone in it knows that. Don’t waste your time taking people down because you THINK they offended your favorite band members. In fact, if you have to say anything, be informative in a smart way. Don’t come at people in a personal way – stick to the facts.
And always, always, always promote your band more than you look to take down others who don’t. Be productive with your love.
5. …But Realize That Your Boys Aren’t Flawless.
This one is learned with years of experience. It’s easy to think that your faves are perfect and you will do anything to make others think the same.
….but slow your roll.
No one is perfect and you will realize that, while you love them despite their flaws, others may not and that’s okay. Everyone has their preferences. At least that means you have to share with less people. The quicker you learn that they’re not flawless though, the more crazed you look and the more people can take you seriously.
ALSO – Do not come for former girlfriends, family members, etc. that have less than savory things to say about them or aren’t saying anything at all. That’s not your fight and it’s not your business. It’s more trouble than it’s worth. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
6. Respect Those That Have Come Before Them (And Those That Try To Help Them).
DO NOT COME FOR OTHER ARTISTS WHO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR BAND. Unless it’s completely despicable and inaccurate, most times what other artists say about other artists has been lost in translation, is actually true, or is not intentionally “coming for them”. Fans berating other artists on social media is probably the #1 way to embarrass your idols, actually. Please don’t. More than anyone, the older artists know what it takes to stay in the industry and are only offering their help.
7. Have The Time Of Your Life!
Most of us would agree that the time that you relinquish yourself to a life of fangirling (or fanboying) begins some of the best (and most memorable) times of your life. Buy the concert ticket, bug your parents to let you go with your friends, wait in line to buy an album (if people do that anymore – we’re old), share photos, share memories, and don’t take everything so seriously. A relationship with a band will change you forever – make it for the best!
And please remember — it’s not just about selfies, follows and hashtags. Soak it all in.
Good luck and may the odds be ever in your favor!