1998. That’s the year that I became a Backstreet Boys fan, along with many of my friends. Some were fans before and some became fans after – the perk of having a band that’s stayed together for 25 years. Most of us could tell you a story about the moment it happened and some can narrow it done to a day and time.
But all of us can tell you that we’ve learned a LOT in our time as Backstreet Boys fans. There’s something about being a fangirl (or fanboy) that translates across generations though, no matter what band you chose to love for 10+ years. While most of our posts are BSB-centric, this is a rare general one to share the love, the bond, and our dirty little fangirl secrets (kind of).
Shout out to the ladies and gentlemen reading this who think, “wait…that’s not normal?”, because being a fan warps you a little… IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE.
1. We Know How To Wait Like A Champ.
Waiting for an album.
Waiting for a meet and greet.
Waiting for the band outside a hotel / buses.
Waiting in the restroom line at a concert.
Let’s face it – most of our fan lives have consisted of waiting minutes, hours, days, months, years. By now, we are expert waiters and while we may not always like it, we are used to it. In fact, as much as we might hate waiting and think we’re terrible at it, we’re often shocked by how good we are in comparison to fresh fans.
2. Lines Are Inevitable.
This falls in line with #1. If you’ve chosen the fangirl / fanboy life, it’s going to come with lines. We come equipped with things to do in line (sometimes blankets and food if it’s going to be a while) and some of our best friends have been made because we had to wait in a line.
3. We Don’t Believe It Until We See It.
Our favorite boyband members get excited and sometimes blurt things out or have big dreams that leave their mouths and reach our ears before it’s actually a real plan. Therefore, we have learned to be wary of anything until it has a date, a time, and a zip code.
4. Storytime Is Our Favorite Time.
NOTHING gets a fangirl going like the opportunity to share her stories of tour life, meet and greets, chance meetings, etc. and hearing others in return. Where else do you think we get our crazy ideas? If one of us did it, obviously we want to too!
5. It’s Never Not Weird If A Band Member Knows Us.
Speaking for Backstreet fans, it does not matter how many times you’ve seen the Boys and how many times they’ve recognized you or know your name, it still rocks the 10 year old girl inside of you to. the. core.
6. No Matter How Old You Are, The Fangirl Monster Lives Inside You.
You can be a wife, a CEO, a mom, or a grandmother and you’re still going to be shocked at the screams that come out of you the minute the lights go down at a concert, the second your favorite song starts playing, or the moment your favorite member is right in front of you onstage.
Sometimes the fangirl monster is more subtle. It’s the catch in your chest when their song plays at the grocery store or the laser focus you have when buying concert tickets. Whatever it may be, the monster never leaves you.
7. You’re Never Going To Be Happier Than You Are At A Concert.
There are very few moments in your life that are going to give you the same high as the concert high. From the anticipation to the very moment is begins, it’s a type of euphoria you can’t explain to the people who have never been lucky enough to love a band like you are.
8. You Never Stop Trying To Force Them On Other People.
Backstreet Boys albums for EVERYONE!! All of us are guilty of keeping track in our heads of how many people we’ve “converted” and secretly (or not) love every moment we catch a convert humming their songs or getting excited with us.
9. You’re Going To Have A Family That Isn’t Even Related To You.
We call it a fan-mily. Our fan-mily members understand everything our regular family members may not, from post-concert depression to VIP addiction to concern over something no one else cares about. Along the way though, some fan-mily became our actually family. We celebrate birthdays together and go on vacations. We have the best of times and the worst of times. We’re there for each other because five men decided to form a band and perhaps that’s one of the greatest perks that no one tells you about.
10. Your Band Is Always Going To Be Your Safe Place.
When someone asks why we’re going to see the same band over and over, it’s hard to explain, but in short, they’re our safe place. There are many reasons that we all became fans and remained fans for years and for a lot of us, it’s because the band never hurt us and the music healed us. The moments we get to share together – with the band and with our fan-mily – are some of our greatest memories, hours, and days of our lives. It doesn’t matter how old we are, if they show up, we’ll show up… because we owe them one (or 50). It’s an appreciation. It’s a peace. It’s our lives and it’s our band. We wouldn’t trade a minute.