Alllllright, everyone! We’re going to get back into the fun stuff soon, but first, some real talk.
Every one of you that reads WHOTB on the regular knows that we love the Boys and we love all of you reading this. Sometimes though, some things need to be said and things need to get real. We’re laying it out here – most of the things that people talk about in private, the things that we wear each other down with, etc. We say it so we can all move on to a positive place. We are opening the discussion. We are not pointing fingers, we are not saying anyone is right or wrong and we’re not telling anyone what to do, but we are suggesting that for us to all work together to make the Boys’ 25th year the best one yet – for them and for us – we need to shift for a better future.
(Also, this is not us being high and mighty – AT ALL. We’re guilty of some of these things too and we’re working really hard to change them.)
1. Stop doubting the Backstreet Boys, their team, and their intentions.
We’re not saying you have to like their time table or the fact that things are usually delayed, but do you 100% think the Backstreet Boys and their team are “out to get you” with the words they say and things they put out there?
How many times do you go into work feeling super productive, tell someone that you’re going to do something, then get sidetracked or change your mind about the way you want to go about it? A lot, if you’re being honest. The BSB and co. are juggling hundreds of worldwide balls that we’re not even aware of, so cut them some slack. We all miss them when they’re doing other things, but we have all the faith that they ARE working on things for eventual release. Still, everyone is only human.
2. Stop acting like we know everything all the time.
….Which brings us to this point. We, as fans, do not know every single thing all the time. We might know something Kevin, Brian, Howie, AJ or Nick has said, but refer to #1 — sometimes that’s not the complete and final truth. It starts rumors, it incites spite, and generally, no one plays well with someone who acts like they have some kind of higher knowledge than everyone else. If it’s something you’re not supposed to say publicly, then don’t.
Unless, of course, you’re using info to make the BSB look better to your naysayer friends – then, by all means, KNOW EVERYTHING AND USE IT AS A POWER. They won’t know the difference.
3. Stop talking about things so negatively, so publicly.
You know how you get mad at your family but if anyone else talks shit, you defend them? Same goes for the Backstreet Boys. 99% of us are going to defend them if anyone else talks badly about them, but about 45% of us are putting those things out there to begin with.
Why do you want to talk so badly about a group that you spend hard earned money to take a vacation to see? A group that works hard to keep making music because fans have asked for it? A group that tries to listen to what fans want and tries their best to meet those demands? Of course everyone gets the occasional frustration, but running them into the ground at low points, only to relish in their success and expect everyone else to love them at high points seems a little counterproductive, right?
4. Stop targeting other fans without reason.
We’re not saying you have to like everyone because we totally get personalities that don’t jive. We’re saying if you don’t like someone, move along. No need to spread your distaste for other fans, without reason. If they’re not impeding your opportunities, hurting your or someone else, spreading rumors, etc. …leave people alone! Don’t be a Regina George.
If you have a legit reason and other fans need to know, stay lowkey and factual.
5. Stop making other fans feel guilty about what you can’t do.
On the flip side of #4, please be mindful of how much you talk about what you can’t do and being mad because other fans “have it so easy”. We totally understand that it sucks to not be able to see the Backstreet Boys for days, weeks, months or years.
We get that it’s easier for us in the U.S. to see them more often.
We get that some of us don’t have husbands, children, houses, etc. and can afford more. We get that some of us have those things and CAN afford it. It’s situational.
But there are also people that work multiple full time jobs to be able to afford what they do. There are people that travel across the country / world to see concerts because that’s what they want to do. There are people that choose to spend their time and money going to see the Boys because that is what makes them happy.
LET PEOPLE LIVE. It’s okay to be sad or jealous or irritated, but don’t take it out on others.
6. Stop making demands everytime one of the Boys breathe.
They know we want them in our individual countries, in our towns, in our homes, in our backyards, in our beds, etc.
They know we’re waiting for new music.
They know we want tour when they’re promoting Vegas, that we want Vegas when they’re talking about a cruise, that we want whatever they’re not doing at the very second.
If AJ is tweeting about his fried chicken, stop replying with something irrelevant about where you want to see him next. Tell him how good his fried chicken looks and tweet about what you want another time. If Nick tweets about his pumpkins, don’t respond with a tweet tagging your 87 friends who all have birthdays today.
Who can blame the Boys for shying away from interactions on socials when all fans are doing is telling them what we want ALL. THE. TIME. We have to start acting like humans communicating with other humans to get back to a good place. Have a conversation!
…Then we can make gentle demands again. Heh.
BUT STOP ASKING ABOUT “SPOTLIGHT”.
7. Stop complaining.
About everything. If you don’t like the way something is run, don’t go. If you think it could be done better, lay out your constructive criticism with a productive plan to go along with it and get it in from of the right people.
Don’t be a firestarter. Don’t complain for the sake of hearing other people complaining and then not do anything about it.
8. Stop second guessing whether you should go to events or not.
9. Stop feeling bad when you can’t go.
IT IS OKAY! We know that FOMO is the WORST, but so is PCD, so you’ll deal with the feels one way or another. Everyone has different priorities and that’s okay. The Backstreet Boys aren’t going anywhere. So you miss a few things – when you DO get to go to something, it’s going to be even better. Because you earned it. You worked for it. Trust us.
10. Stop right now…. and think what a great time it is to be a fan!
THINK ABOUT IT.
Collaborations with other genres.
Appearances on TV shows.
An upcoming album.
An upcoming world tour.
25 years together.
ALL FIVE ORIGINAL MEMBERS.
They know some of our names. They know some of our faces.
We’re in this for the long haul guys and we only want it to get better. Join us in committing to make 2018 the BEST year for all of Backstreetdom. We’re super hyped!
In the words of Taylor Swift, are you ready for it?