It happens everytime the Backstreet Boys do something new.
You can’t afford this event. You can’t swing the VIP. The tour isn’t coming close to you and traveling is out of the question because you’re enjoying a super busy year already.
These are all legit reasons for you not being able to do something, but there’s always that nagging feeling that you HAVE to make it happen. Why? Because if you don’t make it happen, you’ll be a bad fan.
Let me tell you – that is ridiculous.
After nearly 23 years, Kevin, Brian, Howie, Nick and AJ are more than grateful for each and every one of us. It’s not how many events you go to, how much money you spend, how many selfies you’ve collected – it’s about making the most of the moments you have. If you think the Backstreet Boys are going to think less of you because they’re going to magically find out when you show up to a concert that you have never been in a VIP, don’t know the lyrics to every solo album backward and forward, you’re wrong.
At the end of the day, these five men show up to make music. They show up, they record, they choose songs that they think the world and fans would enjoy. Listening, supporting, and appreciating the music is really all that’s required of being a fan, when you get down to it.
Stop beating yourself up for the things you don’t do!
That being said, it’s pretty obvious that fan guilt is most likely transmitted by other fans. Fans who think it’s “absolutely insane” that you haven’t been to a VIP. Fans who think “if you work hard enough”, you can more than afford the cruise. Of course, there is NOTHING wrong with doing these things and if you have the opportunity, the means, and the time to do them – by all means, do them! Enjoy yourself! Share all of the stories and photos so that others can live vicariously through your adventures.
But, please, stop fan shaming.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions. Everyone also has their own priorities. Stop assuming just because other fans aren’t doing certain things that they don’t have the means to do them. Stop assuming that they’re not doing them because one of the Boys isn’t involved. Stop assuming. Stop throwing shade. Stop inciting fan guilt. Stop making people feel bad. It’s not good or productive for anyone. If it really bothers you so bad that you feel you need to say unsolicited things, address the “situation” directly. Get to know someone.
What are we doing, guys? We’ve all grown up together. We’ve all been through major Backstreet milestones together. Why in the world would we be throwing such hatred toward each other? Why would any of us act better than the others? There’s no reason.
Build each other. Share your stories. Share your photos. Share your love. We’re all we have to keep the Backstreet pride alive. Enjoy it!